It's a sure bet that Steve Harvey probably never expected his self-help book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man", where he gives women the benefit of the sage advice he has learned during his years as a talk-show host and comedian to take off as it has. But, the funny thing is that it has really taken off.
His advice works, although some dyed-in-the-wool feminists or other members of the politically correct school of advice-to-the-lovelorn might find it hard to believe. That it works might come from the fact Harvey has been on-the-air with his talk radio show for a number of years and his interaction with his audience does give him insights that others may just miss.
For example, though this may sound somewhat crude, Harvey has the nerve to point out that if a woman is having trouble with her boyfriend, that it is likely there might be some change in the wind. It's the type of change that may not be the wanted, but it is still likely to be true.
Equally as true, he points out, that many relationships seem to have a "three-month rule." That means that if the relationship lasts for more than three months, it is likely that this relationship may last for a long time. Whether it will lead to marriage and kids is beyond his knowledge. It also seems to contradict his dictum that "there's one waiting in the wings!"
If you look at it closely, it really isn't contradictory, it depends on the type of relationship that was established in the first place. As Harvey notes, if the relationship is based solely on physical attraction and there's nothing underneath, then it's likely the "wings waiting" model will be the winner because they pair have nothing in common.
On the other hand, if there's a mix supportive elements such as physical and emotional, as well as intimacy, then, as Harvey indicates, you're on your way.
That Harvey can write so well comes from the fact that he does have the radio show and it does require more scripting than you would suspect. Why, even some of the "spontaneous" spots that appear on his show are likely scripted to one degree or another and, frankly, getting them to sound spontaneous does require some work.
One might consider Harvey's book an unlikely place to find good, solid relationship advice, but when you have to relate to a radio audience and then switch to a nightclub audience, you must develop a way to handle the transition so it would stand to reason that this work is much more than it appears.
Of course, it does have its funny moments, as well, and you'll probably find the light-hearted last few chapters to be more than worth the price. Some of the comments are hilarious. And, always remember one solid piece of advice and it is this: if someone is introducing you to their kids, it is probably too late. It's likely this relationship will be a lasting one.
Smoke damage can be caused by the smoke's gases or the soot it leaves behind. Depending on the extent of the damage and the type, different cleaning and restoration techniques must be implemented to properly clean the mess. When smoke damages books, photos, or important paper documents, the process to restore them can be especially difficult because of the fragility of these items.
Smoke damages can be categorized into three general types: wet, dry, and fuel oil soot.
Wet smoke is a low-heat, smoldering type of smoke that leads to sticky residue. This smoke damage has the potential to warp books and documents.
Dry smoke is a created by high temperature, fast-burning fires. It is especially damaging to older, more fragile books.
Fuel Oil Soot
Fuel oil soot occurs when furnaces and other heat sources give off gritty puffs of soot. This kind of smoke acts as an abrasive on paper items like books and archive documents.
Smoke follows a general pattern for movement and destruction. It moves to the top floors of buildings. It is attracted to cool areas and easily moves through plumbing and ventilation systems.
How Damage Occurs
Smoke damages books and documents by staining exposed surfaces, mainly covers and paper edges. Damages to these items will depend on the quality, age, and condition of the documents affected. It will also depend on how well the items were stored prior to encountering the smoke. Most home and business owners keep books on shelves. Therefore the damage occurs mostly on the outer bindings and the top edges. Properly stacked books and documents will actually protect each other from intense smoke and soot damage. Keeping book shelves and desks away from the ventilation ducts or pipe work will also reduce the likelihood of smoke damage.
Restoration and Cleaning
Regardless of how much damage your books or documents have received, it is important to take extreme care when handling them. Books may not seem to have experienced much damage, but smoke, especially dry smoke, can ruin book bindings and make pages very brittle. Never handle damaged books by their pages - otherwise, increased "fingerprint" damage can occur.
You can clean most mildly damaged books by wiping the covers and paper edges with a dry sponge. This removes residue and prevents soot and ash from continuing to stain your books over time. However, you must be sure that you clean these items in a low humidity environment otherwise the moisture in the air can collect on the paper and cause further damage.
If your books, photos, or documents have experienced moderate to heavy smoke damage, you should seek out a professional book and document restoration specialist. Restoration companies have a number of state-of-the-art cleaning techniques they can employ to recover your damaged books. Many companies have sanding techniques to remove stubborn soot stains on page edges and employ a deodorizing technique to remove smoky odors. Other professionals will use ozone gas chambers to remove stains and safely deodorize documents.
Smoke is a lesser known damager of home and business materials. It can, however, be the most damaging because it is harder to assess the extent of the damage until it is often times too late. By properly employing strategic storage techniques and proper material handling practices you can greatly reduce the potential for smoke damage in the event of a disaster or emergency.
Learning the English language can be a difficult task. There many methods of learning English to help you overcome the various problems associated with grammar, spelling, pronunciation, and even English slang. One method is actively reading. The more that you read, the more you broaden your understanding of the language, and as a result, the faster you will learn to read and speak English.
Textbooks are a very helpful learning tool, but newspapers, magazines, and novels are great ways to give you a better understanding of the English language. You will learn the various English expressions, phrases, sentence structures, and words, which will help improve your vocabulary. Make sure that you keep a dictionary close by when you start reading because some words and phrases can be tricky.
Reading on your own is not just effective, but it is also extremely motivating. When you read on your own, you will be reading something that you have chosen. It will be interesting because it is what you chose, rather than something your teacher told you to read. As a result, you read much more willingly. Learning words naturally is both fun and educational. You will also learn how to use the correct words at the appropriate time. Generally, you should read at least a few pages per day. If you believe that you do not have time to read, take a book or magazine with you everywhere that you go. This will allow you to read in a variety of places such as when you are waiting in a long line at a bank or traveling on a bus.
Students who read a lot will actually learn to think in English. When students read every day, they will first learn slowly, but then they eventually start to learn faster and more easily. Reading helps the brain concentrate on English. Your brain will be repeating the words and phrases that it has seen many times. By reading a book in English, you have given your brain thousands of English sentences. Soon, you will begin speaking the language with confidence.
Reading is a great way to review and remember English words. By reading newspapers and magazines, students will remember what they learned long after they have completed an English learning class. As well, reading is an activity that can be enjoyed by all ages.
Reading maps is also a helpful tool. It will expand your knowledge of the geographic areas. If you are in business, you will most likely be required to write in English. Reading will help your writing because it will provide you with more expressions that you were not previously familiar with.
When reading English, phrases will eventually come easy to you when you are writing or speaking the language. Things like verb tense and how to use words such as "however" will become part of your understanding of the language. You will start to use them correctly without thinking. Correct phrases will just appear in your head. Also, when you read something that matters to you, you will remember it more. For example, if you read the lyrics of a new song by your favorite band, you are much more likely to repeat them and keep the words and phrases in your memory.
Reading and listening are both great ways to learn English, but reading is usually much easier than listening. With the aid of a good dictionary, you can understand English texts much more easily. The more you read, the easier it will become. It is not always easy, but it is worth the effort.